Small Take on Relationships

So as I sit with my sister having lunch at home, watching Teen Mom 2 Finale Special, I notice that I am becoming increasingly irritated with the women on the show...and the show itself. I don't watch the Teen Mom show. I am only watching the Finale Special because my sister watches this crap and I got stuck eating lunch in the living room with her. My cable isn't set up in my bedroom yet either. I guess I can understand WHY this show is popular. People love to watch others struggle and overcome obstacles in their lives. It may be a "support" thing but I just cannot for the life of me take interest in these shows. I think they are ridiculous. If anything wouldn't these types of shows assist deteriorate society? For heaven's sake the girls physically and emotionally abuse their partners and then victimize themselves. They allow their partners to do the same in return. They are involved in heavy drugs, cannot escape them, and then cry about how they can't access their child... I mean really?? All of these mothers that have been presented have in my opinion, and forgive me if this offends anyone but it is my opinion and I hold strongly to it, just idiot after idiot. I do not feel pity for them. They are digging themselves into their own holes and are too stubborn to leave the negative behind and move forward.

One is a drug addict that keeps flopping from sobriety to user, and also flops back into an abusive relationship with the ex-boyfriend that literally injects heroine into her system. Come on! If not for yourself, do it for your child! You cry about how you can't see him whenever you want or have him sleep over your house. Why would anyone in their right mind allow that? Another girl is just way too stubborn and hateful that she is set on denying the father any kinds of rights. Also, she detests the boyfriend's new girlfriend for no reason. She claims that she doesn't like the girlfriend because she saw pictures of her with a gas mask online. I understand that your child is with his father and the girlfriend when you choose to not be present and that concerns you...but whatever she wants to do on her own personal time is her business. At the end of the day, it took two people to conceive. It takes two parents. It's not just one mother controlling everything and demanding things to be a certain way. I would understand that if the father was unfit. In this case, I think both the mother and father need to take some kind of counseling or classes on parenting, communication skills, and anger management courses. There's no denying that there are a few mothers in the show who progress from their situations and grow from their troubles but there are others that I am shocked as to how or why they still have custody of their child. All women are unbelievably strong but so few know it. So few know the power we hold. We can reproduce, offer life, offer a continuation of a genetic line, we LOVE unconditionally. I know what I am worth. I know who is worthy of me. It is hard sometimes remembering that but in the end I want to be happy and I have so much love to give. The person who ends up with me hopefully will be the luckiest man I know. I know I can be so giving, I know I can be very difficult as well. I just hope that all I stand for now does not change.

I've been in unhealthy relationships myself, I'm not perfect. I was a person in these same situations, minus the child. We had anger issues. We didn't get aggressive with each other but we did take it out in other ways. He would throw furniture around and punch walls. I would go out with my girls, drink, smoke, lose control or I would go running. I had self-esteem problems and felt as if that would be the best I would come across. I doubted myself and my potential. It just angers me when I see this behavior in other people because I have learned that it does not HAVE to be that way. I find myself constantly having to remind myself that I was once there. I have to remind myself not to feel this way because people really are struggling and simply don't understand life and it's many twists and turns. Everyone has a choice. Things sometimes don't work out as planned but if that is the case then go to Plan B but don't feel stuck. The universe is wide and vast. The butterfly effect is real. Any minute life can change direction for any reason. You can be in the slums but keep your head up and think positive. Surround yourself with people who want to succeed and prosper. Surround yourself with people who have the same mindset, same goals, same drive. Believe in yourself and summon strength from within to push you to do the best you can do. This world is limitless. You are your own worst enemy. Do not allow fear to enter your soul. Do not allow criticism to hold you down. In fact, use all that negative feedback and criticism to give you encouragement. Use it to encourage yourself to do better if you feel you agree with that person(s) or view it the way I do: they are just hating. People are always going to want to bring you down because they don't like seeing others do better than them. But what fault do you have that you are on your game and they are not? What fault do you have that you are more dedicated, more willing, more active? Do not allow other people to infiltrate your being. We are all strong we just have to realize it and give ourselves life.

On a lighter note....today is Mother's Day in Mexico. Happy Mother's Day to all! Special thank you to my Mother. Mother has always been there for us despite our decisions and actions. She has put up with more than I can imagine myself doing. She has struggled so much to raise this family. Although we do not agree on many things, I will always be grateful for the opportunities she has provided for me. I may not have been dealt the cards in life everyone dreams of but I was blessed with an overbearing, over-loving mother whom also played the role of a strict father and an even more loving and caring sibling unit. So THANK YOU! Thank you for not giving up on us or giving us up. Thank you for all that you have done!